Garden House of Morro Bay: A Love Home for Seniors with Dementia

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Since 2012 “Overcoming the stigma of dementia” has been in discussion worldwide by members of Alzheimer’s Disease International. For some, dementia is part of the normal ageing process. For others dementia is considered a mental illness. Rather than seek activities to improve caregiving and quality of life, people are isolated, even hidden away with assumptions nothing can be done to help them anyway. This is counter to ADI’s vision and goal to increase public awareness and understanding, thus, seeking a shift towards acceptance and inclusion of people affected by dementia.

Kasey Watson, administrator/owner of Garden House of Morro Bay, an award-winning home for mature adults, including those with Alzheimer’s and other dementias, has wrestled with overcoming this stigma. In 2017 she discovered the true value of the age-old adage “a picture is worth a thousand words.” Annually her nonprofit produced a calendar so she got the idea to feature willing residence in their favorite daily activity or an activity they used to perform regularly. She thought the exercise would be great for the residence and just might be the magic needed to overcoming ADI’s dilemma to further the international dialogue. Here is Watson’s story:

“Just point your camera, Luke,” said Kasey Watson. “Judy’s moment will be showing you how she hasn’t forgotten how to flirt.”

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Internationally accomplished photographer Luke Severn and Watson collaborated recently to release their 2017 calendar. The seventh annual calendar profits provide subsidies for veterans or their spouses to afford the “gold standard round-the-clock care” provided Garden House of Morro Bay. Previous calendars featured paintings produced by residents during MnemaTherapy sessions (www.artwithoutbounderies.net) conducted by Watson while contracted by Gari Cave, the owner of Garden House before Watson’s family purchased it in 2013. Numerous art pieces have been exhibited locally, at California’s State Capitol in Sacramento and at the University of Southern California.

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However, as Watson witnessed the benefits of the art and music therapy sessions, she realized a gnawing at her psyche – a growing desire to provoke a worldwide attitude adjustment towards those living with Alzheimer’s and other dementias.

“If the world could see what I see,” she said. “If people – even their families — could see with their hearts instead of what they think they see with their eyes.”

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Case in point, she introduced Severn to Richard Gatchel who had spent a career teaching philosophy and religious studies at the university level. “He is always the gentleman,” said Watson. “He loves to walk arm in arm and finds such peace watching the boats in Morro Bay.”

Severn was in between assignments with clients such as the Guggenheim and Bridges of Hope, South Africa when he decided to volunteer at Garden House. He’d grown up with a loved one who had Alzheimer’s and wanted to spend some time helping wherever he was needed. When Watson discovered Severn’s desire “…to reveal the deep connections between real people with real stories using my passion for photography…” the concept for the 2017 calendar was born.

Watson wanted to capture her residents experiencing that moment of joy remembering what they struggled day-to-day to recall. “MnemeTherapy gave me a solid foundation to recognize strengths and deficits in our residents so I was prepared to operate Garden House,” she said. Being onsite full-time confirmed her hypothesis, “They’re still in there wanting to relive the good times — hungry to tell their story.”

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Wally Jackson retired from PG&E. His children say he was always optimistic. Watson was called in during his darkest days spent in his trailer with alcohol his chosen friend. Secure now at Garden House, he enjoys leading the breakfast table in song yet faces each day with extreme anxiety, a compulsive routine and fears going out. Watson thought his intense politeness might enable him to accept the offer for an outing in a classic car. Indeed, Wally enjoyed a memorable ride around Morro Bay.

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Sybil Crook can no longer sequence or follow pattern instructions, but she loves talking sewing all day any day. Each square sparks a memory of who wore her creations or good times spent quilting with her sister.

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Gerry Maddren was born in San Francisco in 1924. She met her husband while attending college in Oregon. An only child she loved raising seven children while writing books and children’s short stories. Although her creativity today is consigned to coloring books, she continues to model her sophisticated upbringing so Severn recaptured her 1988 pose depicted on her book jacket for The Case of the Johannisberg Reisling.

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Ruth Ericson spent her early years playing golf at Marshall Cangory Country Club in Claremont, CA. Very competitive, she sunk three lifetime holes-in-one. At first, she didn’t mingle well at Garden House. She titled her first MnemeTherapy painting “Misfit.” Ruth called Watson crazy when she suggested they go to the golf course. But Ruth remembered exactly how to grip her putter, exactly how to sink the ball, has exact recall of that memorable day and won’t hesitate when invited to enjoy another moment on the golf course.

 

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“This is me,” all twelve portraits shout, “enjoying a moment. I’m here and I haven’t forgotten…”

 

To find out more about Garden House, MnemeTherapy, or make a $20 donation to receive the 2017 calendar go to www.gardenhousemorrobay.org.Maddie and Marg

Note: the 2019 calendar features residence enjoying life at Garden Housing especially the new gardens created by Cal Poly San Luis Obispo students – from design to permitting with the city and landscape construction, they have produced a student project of beauty and all documented in the calendar.

Another note: Looking for a wonderful place to work. Garden House is periodically looking for caregivers. They will train.

April 6, 2019: Garden House is participating in the Morro Bay Citywide Yard Sale. Check it out. Garden House calendar 2019

 

 

A Hallmark Encouragement

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In a couple weeks — April 5-7 to be exact — Morro Bay produces another Citywide yard sale. It has become a big deal since it began at least eleven years ago. Tourists visit to discover treasures or trinkets they can’t live without and some even bring trailers to take home furniture or larger items. Local use it as a time to spring clean and make a few extra bucks. There is a gentleman from Ventura, I think, that comes by every year and asks my husband if he has coins to sell. He offers a fair value and we make Bob buy the family dinner that night…or used to before the crab feed!!

The city garage company waives fees for hauling big items away the week after the yard sale. So everyone wins. And now groups are piggy-backing on evening opportunities for tourists to stay and play in Morro Bay.

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Speaking of crab feeds!!! Morro Bay Rotary has an “all you can eat” crab feed with all the fixings on Saturday evening April 6. Proceeds benefit community groups needing a boost of cash. Morro Bay Tourism recognizes this event as a true tourism opportunity so pitches it to visitors.

Only a $60 a ticket and almost sold out!! But then where else can you get a dinner among friends and lots of crab from Tognazzini’s Dockside? My son-in-law consumed 6 crabs last year and we all ate our share. And Rotarian servers even break the parts up enough so lazy-pickers like me can enjoy.

The Community radio station The Rock also has a big night. They offer lots of good songs dancing and adult beverages at the Morro Bay Veteran’s Hall. Have to work off a big crab dinner someway!!

So why am I promoting here besides a couple good causes to enjoy? I’m getting ready for the Citywide Yard Sale. We’ve decided to help out Garden House of Morro Bay this year. Garden House is a a wonderful home a couple blocks from us that helps senior residents with all kinds of dementias. Our Aunt Stella spent several lovely years there and now my good friend Kasey Watson owns it and my mother’s granddaughter Jody is her administrative assistant. Just as Mom found her new satisfying life in Cayucos, Jody has found another career utilizing all her best talents. Mom would be amazed and so proud Jody has found her career-feeder!

Looking through my stuff I found a Hallmark birthday card to me from my mother, Pat McKaye. She moved to Cayucos when she was 80 and was totally involved in her adopted community. She ran the thrift store and coordinated the Cayucos Senior Volunteers, which donated so much back to the community. She made wonderful friends and found her new home away from home — a haven to feed on. She was also proud of me that I had found my first love — the career I wanted in high school. I was writing for the local newspapers. I had forgotten she had given me this story idea.

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Mom was excited Jody and Mike were back permanently from Louisiana. He was from there and she was in school back there, but that’s another story. Somehow she linked that with  the Hummingbirds she loved to watch from her patio-slider door. At our house we would watch out of our kitchen window where we once saw a family of hummingbirds build a nest, birth their children and fly away. Having the kids close was a joy although she never hovered — visited, enjoyed the nectars offered and flew away…then back again another day.

She thought of names like Holly because it was close to their last name of Hollier. The villain bird or was it the hero bird was Anne, the middle name of both my daughter and I. She did mention another bird, a red necked bird who tried to steal the nectar from the feeder, but as you will see Anne protects it for her own.

Birds are jealous of each other, she wrote. “They love to sit on the feeder and chase each other off. They are very curious and love to play especially when the water hose is on. They also like things to stay the same.”

She told how once she got a new feeder and they refused to drink from it or play on it. She returned the older feeder to its roost and they were back again — playfully. Another time a storm was blowing hard even for her protected patio. The wind and the rain knocked over a large gardenia bush. “They flew in and around and around and chattered as if to say, ‘What’s wrong'”

Another time the wind was blowing the feeder sideways to and fro up and down. The hummingbirds would fly around and around begging it to stop. When it wouldn’t stop they finally took a risk and flew onto the branch. They rode it like a bucking roller coaster. When the feeder was empty they would fly to the window and hover as if to say, “We are out. We need more. We want to stay.”

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One time a bird hid in the bush near the feeder or maybe it was refuge in the fallen gardenia bush. Whenever another bird would fly to the feeder, the stalking bird would fly out and chase it away. Contrary to popular belief, he or she would sit there for hours protecting his/her feeder from marauders.

Mom thought Anne was a good name for the bird who captured her favorite place and guarded it as if her own. After a time Anne was the only one using the feeder and one day Mom wrote she came out and there were all kinds of hummingbirds of smaller sizes and variations of green — lighter to darker green — feeding all at once from the same feeder. She wondered if Anne drive them away. Then she saw Anne. It looked like she would try to make them leave the feeder, but instead she joined them and flew around them. Mom thought she is protecting her own. Anne was saying, “Feed my babes. I have captured our safe place for them and you can help me nurture and grow to fly away to make their new home.”

This is the story Mom wanted me to tell — the circle of life — the love of a mother for her own. I’m sure Mom thought the story would most likely in a children’s book at the Cayucos Library and Coalesce Book Store in Morro Bay, but…..

This was about nine years ago when Mom flew away. She found her safe haven or heaven. Who then would have really understood blogging is also meant for storytelling.

And so it goes…..Thanks, Mom.

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For the Love of a K9: New Life K9s Gives New Life for Inmates, PTSD victims & Donors

Author Note: This article has been updated from recently published LIVING LAVISHLY & INSPIRED HEALTH magazine that is distributed at the Inspired Health Expo at Madonna Inn March 23 & 24 and through Simply Clear Marketing http://www.simplyclearmarking.com

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New Life K9s business model is dedicated to training and matching a receptive K9 to a human in crisis to modify immediate and long lasting results. Jack Gould is the founder of the program headquartered on Buckley Drive in San Luis Obispo. “We prepare dogs to be of service for Veterans or First Responders with Post Traumatic Stress. Nicole, Rosa and Courtney are the moving parts to make it work.”

For the past two to three years New Life K9s found training support at San Luis Obispo’s California Men’s Colony. Inmates who qualified for the program worked together in teams within a separate unit from the rest of the CMC population. And although New Life K9s original and still ongoing goal is to offer a second chance to humans who’ve earned it, early results confirm that positive interaction and multiple bonding experiences among humans and K9s equates to new life beginnings and the promise of successful future outcomes for all involved in the process.

IMG_2264A second graduation day was held June 6, 2018 at CMC proving beyond expectations that the program works. Participating teams demonstrated – over and over again the bonds created with the dogs and each other. The following is but a snapshot of a most inspirational day spent “inside” CMC. The graduates were Eddie, Hope & Josie trained by New Life K9s staff with support by volunteer inmate-handlers and “outside” weekend puppy raisers. Private funding by groups such as Rotary-founded Pawsabilities for Veterans plus two years of puppy training produced a capable rescue dog ready to give new life — healing and unconditional love to their matched Veteran and First Responder families.

Gould gives Warden Josie Gastelo credit for recognizing the potential of a partnership between New Life K9s and CMC. “Nicole attended a seminar back East and met Sister Pauline, the ‘godmother of the prison puppy program.’ Sister Pauline said she’d write a letter to CMC’s warden. Frankly, we didn’t expect anything to happen. New on the job Warden Josie discovered Sister Pauline’s letter unopened on her desk and she knew she could never ignore a nun’s letter.” In 2018 New Life K9s expanded to Salinas Valley Prison in Soledad.

Warden Gastelo opened the ceremonies. “It is unheard of – in fact crazy — for a parolee to request an extended stay in prison. Mike (Nelson) is delaying his parole to participate in today’s New Life K9s graduation ceremonies. Most prisons have training programs for no-kill rescue centers, but our program is different. We have Jack and Nicole and Lt. Noland running a successful program with no problems — no issues – only success.”

In fact, a behind the scenes story was circulating among the visitors and inmates.  When some of the volunteer inmates announced they couldn’t live together peacefully in the CMC-West unit area or work with certain inmate-handlers that were from another other gang or ethnic background, Warden Josie told Lt. Noland to shut it down if they couldn’t make their peace. Faced with giving up their puppy-friends, order was instantly controlled and two years later working together grew into commaraderie and lifelong friendships.

When Nelson approached the podium approximately 50 visitors and 30 inmate-volunteer-handlers participating in the New Life K9s/CMC training program stood for an extended standing ovation. Nelson was the CMC primary handler for Eddie. After two years of 24-7 weekdays working with Eddie, he would complete the training process by formally giving up the leash to Greg, a former first responder serving San Luis Obispo County.

Working to get his emotions in check, Nelson said, “I’m not crazy to stay inside another day, but I really love Eddie. I wanted to show up for Eddie and be true to me. He’s a big part of my life — my walk. I came here (to prison) when I was fifteen to serve a life sentence because I did a lot of bad things to hurt a lot of people. I never could have imagined what Eddie would teach me. I met him August 12, 2016. He taught me to be more connected — to tap into my own senses — look around at perfection all around me. Training Eddie has opened doors to more experiences and opportunities to continue my path of healing after 20 years inside.” Mike’s next journey would begin the following day heading to northern California to complete a six-month transitional program with two job opportunities pending. Note: Mike has completed his transitional programs and is working with other inmates to help their transitions as well as New Life K9s prison programs.

Nelson introduced Lt. Patrick Noland, “We call him ‘The Dog Father.’ He makes sure the program works – anything from purchasing the dog toys to taking their temperature if they get sick.” Lt. Noland is Program Liaison serving on New Life K9s Advisory Board. Noland served ten years with the U.S. Navy completing three combat duties. In a New Life K9 newsletter Nelson wrote, “Lt. Patrick Noland has dealt with death, seen his military brothers commit suicide and has witnessed a number of evils that Noland attributes to himself and to others. He also deals with his own PTSD, a truth that he remained in denial of for over 25 years.”

Lt. Noland, a big man, stepped up to offer a few words with even bigger emotions. “I have PTSD myself. This program got me through my angry bursts the last couple of years. These are all my dogs so I can’t retire.” Referencing the style of training used by New Life K9s, he added, “I’ve trained dogs for 15 years, but I’ve changed my philosophy how to train since working with Nicole. New Life K9s works.”

The Bond-Based Choice Teaching method was demonstrated by current K9s 2-months to 18-months into training and their Inmate-handlers. The method was developed by Jennifer Arnold & Canine Assistants. Inmate-Handler Kristopher remarked, “We don’t push. We show them. We have to learn patience. We want them to want to do it on their own.”

Time and space does not allow the glowing remarks of other handlers about their K9 buddies, however, a few remarks including:

Richie said, “Hope…taught me love and forgiveness — love and trust…learning that helping others is a beautiful thing.”

Kristopher said, “Josie ‘s best quality was her sense of what is needed. She just knew how to perform it.”

Raymond’s PTSD after serving in Iraq was complicated by alcoholism. “Not addressing my weakness soon enough got me into trouble and landed me here at CMC. Josie taught me how to open my soul. Since working with Josie I have no nightmares about the war. I’m proud of myself today.”

40964691634_5f04f7f985_o46083366692_33085accab_oNew Life K9s Education Director Nicole Hern provided a new insight about the program. “We all knew we were here to thank, honor and support our servicemen, but we didn’t realize the impact the program would have for the handlers. It is an honor watching them give their hearts…then change their lives. Where else would you see a prison staff and the inmates interact so respectfully?”

During the last three months of the two-year program, the veterans and first responder matches took the dogs home to see if the match worked. Veteran Alan served in the U.S. Navy Special Forces. He received two purple hearts and for his efforts returned home with PTSD. Matched with Hope, he explained, “I couldn’t handle crowds, didn’t go out with my family. Now Hope is right there and she nudges when extreme anxiety is present and she calms me. In three months, she has changed by life. I’m no longer a shut-in.”

First responder Greg was matched with Eddie. “For 22 years I was an officer on patrol, investigator, traffic scene investigator. I saw some gnarly stuff before I retired with a neck injury. I became suicidal, had nightmares and flashbacks about the job. I became isolated, depressed and took lots of medications. Now with Eddie I go out with friends and family. The attention is on the dog and I can talk to people about him. Eddie calms me when startled and I’m sleeping regularly with few nightmares. My worst nightmare lately is when I dreamt Eddie was taken. I still have trouble with my memory and forget to take medications so Eddie reminds me. I’m excited to live again with my family.”

And how will Mike move forward with his New Life without Eddie? “During the matching process, Eddie chose Greg. I appreciated that. Greg thoughtfully preparrf for and welcomrf Eddie into his home even before their matching and boot camp was complete. I know Eddie has a loving home where his wellbeing is valued.”

2018-12-29 10.28.28Each family received a portrait of his K9 painted by Inmate-Handler Wesley. Self-taught while inside, his talent emerged when inspired by the puppies. Art by Wesley is currently on display and for sale at Top Dog Coffee Bar in Morro Bay on Main Street with sales wholly supporting New Life K9s. Additionally, Top Dog owners Patrick Bietz and Suzanne Maury have also created a special labeled coffee and subscription service directly benefiting New Life K9s training program.

Gould graciously thanked the many donor partners. The program cost was $10,000. Kudos were given to an original funding partner, Pawsabilities for Veterans, created by Gil Igleheart and Dick Mellinger while members of the Rotary Club of Cayucos Seaside. Now with Rotary Passport Club of Central Coast, they funded $2,000 for each puppy purchased from breeders at Quail Haven Ridge of Arizona and Kathy’s Lab’s of Arroyo Grande. The training dollars for Hope, Josie and Eddie was funded by Nichols Foundation, Darla Postil, and Idlers.

2019-01-19 12.08.46Pawsabilities in Rotarian MagazineFor more inspiration or information check out www.NewLifeK9s.org.

Update info since the June graduaton:

Rotarian Co-Founders of Pawsabilities for Veterans are Dick Mellinger and Gil Igleheart: Gil said, “We are proud to be considered a partner. Jack calls us “Ambassadors”for New Life K9s. In four years we’ve raised $120,000 by visiting 13 Rotary Clubs in District 5240 and other area districts. Members and clubs have supported New Life K9 through Pawsabilities for Veterans based on their personal or business interests and support for the program. Our mission is specific. We raise funds to directly pay for the cost of the puppies that will be trained by New Life K9s and donated to a Veteran with PTSD at no cost to the Veteran. We’re working on incorporating the First Responder with PTSD as well. In 2018 we have the funds for 7 dogs and have provided 5 of the dogs to be trained.

What’s next? Expansion to Rotary Districts bPFV Journey TM-01DSC06156eyond 5240 to spread the word and receive additional funding. We would also like to link with a training facility like Cuesta College that will certify the inmates with skilled training options so they will be prepared to earn a living wage once paroled.

It has been proven the relationship developed during the inmates training year and the transference of the trained dog will give new life to the future owner. It has also been proven the dog  will change the heart of an inmate giving him the will to remain on the outside. But until the parolee can earn their way financially there is the temptation to fall back into the lifestyle they lived in the past. New Life K9s is the bridge to guide them over the hump. Job skill training will get them to step beyond the bridge and a living wage job will offer the dignity and reason to stay on the other side.

Nicole Hern: Nine imate-handlers have been paroled since June, 2018 and none have returned or missed an appointment with their parole officer. This is good news for the high incidence of recidivism, which is a drain on state prison system costs.

KVEC Radio Talk Show Host Dave Congalton challenged listeners to support the program by donating together. If 22 people donate $22 for 22 months it will pay for the cost of the dog and the training program.

Top Dog Coffee has funded Cooper and is well into the training program. Check out the website at www.newlifek9s.org to see if you might join a team!!!